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oh em gee – how are you single?

by Crystal Gibson on May 30, 2010

Frankly, I’m a bit tired of hearing people ask me why I’m single. The question always turns into a long interrogation – one that often leaves me feeling super self conscious and rather defeated. Alas, I’ve thought long and hard while compiling a list of reasons as to why I truly am single:

i often speak as though i’m still in high school

Yes, I have a journalism degree and I pride myself in my written and spoken word however, that doesn’t stop me from engaging in conversation involving the words ‘Ohh Emm Gee’, ‘Rad’, ‘Ridic’, and any other word I choose to shorten. I get super giggly and girly when I’m with the girls – I’m not sure men are into it.

i’m the token ‘emo’ girl when out with a crowd

Fine, I don’t look emo in this photo simply because it’s hard for me not to smile when I’m being photographed – but I am the Debbie downer – always. I’m not sure if it’s a case of social awkwardness on my behalf but I always turn into a super introvert when I’m with a new crowd or in an unfamiliar place. Therefore, my girlfriends are always the ones with men flocking to their sides, while I stand around third-wheelish wondering what to do.

i have a bad romance with my iPhone

So, a continuation from the emo talk – when I get put in an awkward situation, my natural reaction is to pull out my iPhone and pretend I’m doing something important. I’d be lying if I said that was the only time I was preoccupied with my phone but let’s face it, I’m addicted. The last guy I dated told me that I cared about my phone more than I cared about him – guh. Not to mention whenever I have dinner with Andrew, he takes my phone and keeps it in his pocket until we leave the restaurant – I don’t think this is very fair since he taunts me with his phone throughout the meal. While I may have a crazy obsession with my iPhone, I tend to be on my best (phone etiquette) behaviour when on a first/second and err… well I never usually make it to a third date.

i dress kinda weird

I used to be a super prepster: pleated skirts, polo shirts and typical heels. I’m now drawn to clothes that are super weird and over-the-top. Does this make guys go ‘WTF?’ This isn’t to say I don’t have t-shirts and jeans days – or days where I do walk into Club Monaco and drop hundreds on prep attire – but looking different is super fun. I don’t often like to go shopping with my girlfriends because I never feel like they give me honest opinions about the clothes I try on – if I see something super cool that I swoon over, I’ll likely go back and try it on my own. So what do I wear on a first date (not that I’m going on one anytime soon) but what is it that guys like to see on women?

i’m transparent

Telling me things like ‘I really like you’, ‘You’re so special’, You’re a great kisser’, ‘I can’t wait to see you’ are words that make me think that they’re into me – but that doesn’t ever seem to be the case. Last week while I was in Montreal, I went to a cupcake shop owned by a friend of someone that, well – I was trying to get over. Nonetheless, she sent me back to Toronto with a cupcake for him asking me to deliver it to him for his birthday, I obliged slash freaked out. I told him about it and he seemed grateful for the gesture. We’d made plans for me to drop by and give him his little treat. The operative word is drop by because at this point, I wasn’t partial to spending time with him ever again because frankly, he’s nuts. I got back to Toronto and called him – he didn’t answer – he’d gone out. Fine. I asked about dropping it off the next night to which he responded, I’ll call you tomorrow and we’ll plan’. He didn’t call. He didn’t text. I have not heard from him since. I ate his stupid cupcake – it was delicious. The bottom line here is that I think I need to play the ‘hard-to-get’ game otherwise I run the risk of looking like an idiot.

i don’t know how to talk to men

Blah, blah, blah – that’s me talking to men. I talk way too much about topics that are irrelevant and irreverent. I think that’s why I never make it past the first date. I don’t know what guys like to talk about – I’m also a bit defensive. If the topic of social media comes up and the guy is opposed to it – things get heated…and I don’t mean heated in a good way. I become the spokesperson of Twitter and explain (brashly) how great of a tool it is and why it’s benefited society. Do explain to me what I’m supposed to talk about when I’m on a first date?

i blog about why i can’t get a date

I don’t think that guys like to be blogged about – though if they weren’t such douchebags, I wouldn’t have much a reason to blog about them. Note to guys: don’t be a douchebag unless you want to be blogged about. I also think it’s potentially lame that I am blogging about why I’m single – but like I said, it’s a question that I get asked often (as most single people do) so I wanted to address it, obvs!

I think this made the situation worse.

Love, C xo

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life is a red carpet

by Crystal Gibson on May 27, 2010

I’m so happy to have met Abby – she is such a fun-loving, awesome girl, not to mention she’s well on her way to paving her career path. Abby works with Epitome Pictures (they’re the people behind Degrassi) where she tackles the digital/social media strategy. She brought me this awesome t-shirt along with the Degrassi soundtrack – I’m so appreciative when friends think to give me rad little gifts. I introduced Abby to Casie one night at MTV and they got chatting about Degrassi hitting the Much Music scene. Naturally, the two hit it off: giddy about planning and executing a social media strategy while I sat back and thought ’sheesh, I am surrounded by so many ambitious women’. I’m so happy that they met because Casie has the social media scene on lock and Abby (who is fairly new to the scene) is so eager to learn.

We are Degrassi twinsies – love it!

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dreams are never weak like we are, drunk or sober

by Crystal Gibson on May 26, 2010

I dream big everyday: right before I get out of bed, on my commute to/from work, in the shower and again while I fall asleep. The thing is, I find myself feeling weak sometimes because I put so much pressure on myself and forget that things don’t happen overnight. In retrospect, there are so many of my contemporaries that left University with (what I believe) are better skills than me but struggle to find a job that closely resembles their dream. I walked into the Rogers Communications Centre knowing exactly what I wanted to do and that dream hasn’t diminished. My position at GlassBOX Television is beyond fantastic – but I’m still not on TV – yet. I get super bummed some days when I think about the many times I’ve auditioned for on-air positions and been turned down but I can’t be weak and let that get me down – life will play out the way it must and I’m embracing it. There were a lot of really rad things that happened today – I wanted to share them with you:

aux.tv has a canadian video exclusive premiere:

Video premieres are a BIG deal for us at AUX, they’re an even bigger deal when they are online premieres (TEAM DIGITAL)! So, we were lucky enough to obtain the exclusive Canadian rights to Vampire Weekend’s new video for ‘Holiday’ streaming tonight at midnight! Yes, that means I’ll be awake, on my computer making sure all is well plus tweeting and Facebooking. Click here for the link to the player! It’s a really great video – Ezra Koenig looks hot as usual – make sure to wear your preppiest pj’s and wear your wayfarers!

topshopping in toronto

Holt Renfrew brought us a taste of Kate Moss for Topshop a few holiday seasons ago and fashion lovers went crazy. Today, Jonathan + Olivia’s Jackie O’Brien confirmed that she’d be housing Toronto’s first batch of Topshop apparel on June 9 at 9AM – hipsters beware – Ossington will be a crazy scene!

“I don’t want to sound like a geek but I’m really excited to exclusively bring Topshop to Canada,” said O’Brien this morning. “It’s nice to be able to buy fast fashion and mix it with Jonathan + Olivia’s other designer labels like Alexander Wang and Isabel Marant.” says O’Brien.

apple becomes the most valuable tech company
Today, Apple has just passed Microsoft in market cap. Now, the stocks have been fluctuating quite a bit, so this could change before the market closes. But as of right now, Apple is ahead, and has been for the past few minutes. Hooray Apple, bummer for MSFT.

facebook changes privacy settings…again

I just finished reading Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook blog regarding the new settings being rolled out today. I generally don’t care about my Facebook setting because I’m under the impression that any and everyone can get access to my info some way or another – I mean, isn’t that the risk we take on the internet everyday? Anyway – I checked the settings out and rather than look simplistic, they looked super thorough and complicated – guh. For me, Facebook is a tool I use to manage ‘pages’ err.. ‘communities’ for our brands and as long as they run the way they need to, I’m cool.